Kyson is just a fun kid. He is known around our house as the cartoon character. But there are other times where he just says the cutest things. The other day (in the car once again) he said, "Mom, when Kambrie was a baby I wanted her to be a boy." So I pointed out that he didn't know Kambrie when she was a baby because he wasn't born yet. Without skipping a beat he responds, "Yes I did Mom, Jesus showed me a picture and I knew it was a girl!" I guess he told me.
Then Kambrie tells me one day, "I have all these questions that nobody can answer." Silly me said, "like what". She said, "Who made God? Why can't boys marry boys, and girls marry girls? where does the wind come from?" Well, we chatted a bit and I cleared up the marrying issue, and tried to explain the wind, and told her we would all have to wait to find out on the first one. Then she keeps peppering me everyday with what kind of dog can she have, would I like this one or that one. And why oh why can't she have a dog and on and on! I really thought her helping with the neighbors dog would help the dog craving she has, but it seems to have made it worse.
Becca seems happy this last week, which is a good thing. She goes through these phases where the least little thing will upset her. The other day she was just sobbing and told me that she misses her mom (birth mom). It is hard for me to see her hurting so much, and it is hard to not get defensive . . . the little voice in my head yells, "I am your mom." There are just emotional triggers that bring this to the surface and I never really know what they are. But we have talked and showed pictures and told as many positive stories that we can about her first 3 years and that seems to have helped. I know this will continue to be a struggle for her, I just hope we can continue to help her through it.
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Ann, you have great kids and are an awesome Mom. Emily was just lamenting the fact that Kyson doesn't live close anymore.
kids are so cute. I absolutely love the cute things they say. Mylee hasn't asked the "who made God" question yet. The worst is when you really don't know how to answer the questions, so you will have to give me some good tips.
Also, sorry about sweet little Becca. What an incredibly hard thing that must be for both of you to go through, but she is so lucky to have you for her mom. You are such a fun mom. I'm sure she already knows that though. We need to get the girls together again. What happened to our play dates?!! oh wait, let me answer that, LIFE!!
We miss the Burton kids! You guys are so fun.
I do have to admit that I got a little emotional when you were sharing about becca and missing her birth mom. I'm sure that is one of the many things that Grant and I will struggle with when we get a baby placed with us. I'm excited but on the flip side and not looking forward to those moments when 'this child' will want to know about their birth parents. I'm not sure how I will respond to that and we don't even have a baby yet. Oh, well, the joys of being a parent.
You're a great mom, Ann!! I think you put all of us to shame. No kidding on that one. love ya-
Janus
Your kids sre so sweet! Brecklen just loves Kyson and asks to play with him all the time. I am so glad that they are friends that I have been able to know you better. We are just hitting the tip of the iceburg with the "big" questions", it's fun to hear other people's experiences. Sorry to hear about Becca, she's lucky to have you as a mom.
By the way I can't wait to read your 100 things! I will be working on mine.
Hi Ann. I linked to your blog through Jenni T. Your kiddos are too precious! I love the pic of them all hugging each other. Thanks for letting us into your life.
It cannot be easy for Becca to come to terms with very adult emotions and circumstances in her life, but she is so blessed to have such an understanding and compassionate mother!
Thank you everyone for your wonderful words of encouragement, you all uplifted my spirits. You are wonderful friends.
You're a wonderful mother. Becca is a special girl, and you are all blessed to have each other. You're amazing.
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